In the event that Lent is unfamiliar, please indulge me while I explain a little of what it’s all about. Lent is a period in the liturgical year of the church that begins on Ash Wednesday and ends on Holy Saturday, the day before Easter Sunday. In Catholicism, Lent is a time of preparation for the believer, and includes fasting, prayer, and penitence leading up to Easter, the traditional day commemorating the resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Now, let me back up a bit. I didn’t grow up in Catholicism. Nor am I a member of the Catholic faith. However, I am a person OF faith, and I’ve been on a bit of a journey this year…
When I begin preparing to move to Los Angeles in late fall in 2009, you could say I amp up my quiet times a tad. More than anything else that was going on, I knew I had to be spiritually grounded as I entered into this new season of life. In November I was packing up our library, and came across a book that was given to me by a good friend, Purnell, a couple of years before when I was very ill. She had inscribed the following in the front cover:
“Amelia, This is hands down one of my favorite books. You’ll want to be her best friend - kind of like me. Plus, it will give you something to do. Enjoy! Purnell”
The book was Girl Meets GOD: A Memoir. Apparently, I wasn’t in the place to read about this girl meeting God at the time Purnell gave me this book, but when I found it a couple of years later, I was curious, and ready to actually delve into the meat of it. I was in a new season, and felt I was meeting God again, or differently, during a transitional time. So, I start reading. Enter my obsession with Lauren Winner.
An endearing and transparent author, Lauren is simply a fascinating girl. Purnell was right, I did want to be her best friend. Her journey towards and through a relationship with God was now something I related to, and was eager to watch unfold. The memoir’s style, free and light and honest, is deceiving - this book deals with some major questions and issues in a journey of faith. It’s much more intellectual than expected. Then again, Lauren holds a doctorate in the history of American religion…so maybe I should have expected that her writing would be exceptionally researched and pieced together.
There is an entire section on Lent in Girl Meets God; six chapters walking through the Lent season.
I end up reading this book twice in December and January, and then I start reading MudHouse Sabbath, a spiritual guide of sorts by Winner. My interest in Lauren’s take on her religion is peeked…and Lent is right around the corner.
As Lent begins in Girl Meets God, a priest asks, “So Lauren, what discipline have you adopted for Lent?” She is challenged with something radical (for her), and struggles through the weeks that she has given up that cherished indulgence. But I found myself drawn to these specific phrases she uses to describe the experience: “It left me starkly alone with my life. I also find myself praying more because I don’t have my usual distractions…it just might move me closer to Jesus. It might move me to my knees.” This resonates with me. I want that experience.
So, what discipline would I adopt? Well, as ridiculous as it may sound, social media is a major part of my life. Twitter is my coffee break from work, a treasured connection with friends; blogging is my voice in my business and personal life; my website serves as our business storefront; and Facebook, well, it’s a black hole. I came late to all of these outlets mind you, but as soon as I did, they took on a life of their own. Because Facebook is both a personal and professional platform, and serves a dual-purpose for me; I end up sucked in for hours on end. And granted, I book jobs off of Facebook - it could be insane to give this up! Nonetheless, this is what I feel called to do. Facebook will be the hardest thing for me. So, I set about ridding myself of this medium. I take the bookmark off of all my computers. I delete the App from my iPhone. I enter into Lent free of Facebook. And I was wholly unprepared for how starkly alone I would be…
The things that happened while giving up Facebook for Lent:
- I have more time to pray…a lot more time.
- There is a realization of how heavily I am connected to people through social mediums.
- I quickly realize I am starving for truer connections and real relationships in this new season of my life.
- Unfortunately, but somewhat expectedly, I become much more dependent on Twitter.
- I feel free.
- I feel lonely.
- There are days I struggle so much in my loneliness, I find myself angry and resentful at my friends, like it was their fault I’m disconnected. Why aren’t they calling me? Why isn’t anyone answering the phone? Did anyone still care about me at all?
- I feel silly and bible-beater-ish explaining to people what I have chosen to do for Lent…almost embarrassed.
- I’m uncomfortable.
- I miss out on a lot of things.
- I cheat once, and look over my husband’s shoulder to see my page.
- Disconnected from my clients, I feel uneasy.
- I end up talking to current clients on the phone more.
- I start to embrace being starkly alone.
- I begin to dread the end of Lent.
- In the end, I had found my way back to my knees…
Then, suddenly, after all of this preparation, Easter is upon us. We go to morning service at our church, Pacific Crossroads, followed up by a gospel brunch with good friends at the House of Blues. We start driving back to Manhattan Beach. And out of nowhere, I am jonesing for Facebook. What in the world?! I had gotten used to life without it, and now I’m itching to go sign on.
And this is what I find:

And apparently, those are notifications, requests, and messages just since March 28th?! For some reason, Facebook only kept my “updates” current for a week at a time. I guess when you are active on Facebook, you don’t realize the scope of how large it is becoming. As an aside, if you were one of the 115 people who invited me to help you out with your farm, I’m sorry, but that is just never going to happen…
I feel that after walking through Lent this year, Facebook will be different for me. I seem to have a better outlook, a better balance. If you want to connect with me there, you can be my friend here.
So, maybe I’m drowning in messages for a few days, but this experience was completely worth it. I think truly disconnecting with parts of my world allowed me to truly reconnect with what my world is all about. And as Lauren proclaimed, I did move just a little closer to Jesus…and fell just a little more often to my knees.